you can look in the right sidebar under "labels" and see that i've written extensively here about this emotional duality and how i do not believe that L is a "happy ending;" that motherhood after loss is a unique experience that is affected daily by the struggle that preceded it; that grief has no expiration date, and of course, about the importance of Talking About It. this day is a huge part of that.
October 15th is the internationally designated date to remember and promote awareness of pregnancy and infant loss, and to give those affected by it a worldwide community of solidarity in grief and hope. for many who swallow their sorrow, this day is perhaps the needed "permission" to recognize the pain of losing a loved child before or briefly after he or she was born...and this would also include the would-be grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, godparents, etc.
tonight, for Tummymuffin Remembrance Day, our little family of three will light five candles; four for the children we will not meet, and one for our bonus miracle L. we'll hug and talk about the things that make us a family. later, i will speak aloud the names of those i know who are remembering their lost children, and light candles for them too. this will be happening in hundreds of thousands of places literally around the globe. there will be so much light, and so much love.
and if you like, you can listen to me talk about October 15th at the following places below (warning: mild profanity. it is, after all, an honest conversation from the heart and i saw no need to self-censor. apologies in advance.):
You can find today’s episode with Erika on the Happily Ever After show:
Or simply on the web here: